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This is King. He is an
18 month old German Shepherd. He is my best friend but I wouldn’t have him if
it wasn’t for Debbie Connolly. When I phoned her last November, I was
desperate. King was getting more and more aggressive and it was only going to
be a matter of time before he bit someone. But, I should start at the
beginning.
My first mistake was
assuming that I understood German Shepherds just because I had had a
cross-breed who people said looked like he had a lot of German Shepherd in
him. Now, with a bit of knowledge of German Shepherds, that seems like a very
stupid assumption to have made, but I was so keen to have another dog like
Bear that I convinced myself. My second mistake was to think that by buying a
dog that was bred in a family home, rather than from a proper breeder, I would
get a dog who was happy in that situation. I met both the parents, the father
was very friendly and exuberant, the mother was not, but the owners said that
she was normally fine, but was stressed to be saying goodbye to her babies.
It made sense to me.
I saw the advert for
German Shepherd puppies on the vet’s notice board when I went to collect the
ashes of my daughter’s Cocker Spaniel who had had to be put to sleep about
three weeks before. I had been thinking about getting another dog and the
advert seemed to be a sign that we were meant to have a German Shepherd “like
Bear”. The advert said they would be ready in November, which seemed ideal as
it was now the middle of October so we would have time to prepare for a
puppy. I phoned and they said they had four dogs left and I could come round
and see them.
I knew it was important
to see the parents and their environment, and everything except for the
mother’s anxiety seemed fine. There were small children in the home and they
even had a caravan like we do, and when they only had the bitch, she would go
with them. It seemed perfect. I fell in love with one of the puppies and
expected to give them a deposit and come back later to collect him.
Mistake number three.
The breeders said I could take him there and then because they were all weaned
and wormed and he was ready to go.
I now know that at that
point I should have left. Puppies, especially German Shepherds should never be
taken away from their mothers until they are at least 8 weeks old. Some
breeders don’t let them go until they are 12 weeks old because they learn such a
lot from their mothers and litter mates during this time. King was 6 1/2 weeks
old.
From this point on I
think I did some things right. I enrolled him in Puppy Playgroup when he was 12
weeks old so that he could socialise with other dogs and people and followed it
on with regular training classes with a very good dog trainer. I read every
book I could find about German Shepherds and their training, I took him to
different places to get him used to all sorts of situations and he came away
with us in the caravan. We went for two long walks a day, on and off the lead
and everything seemed to be going very well.
Then, when he was about
14 months old, things started to go wrong. He would bark and bark at one of the
dogs that we regularly walked with, not in an aggressive way, more “Pay
attention to me”, but I couldn’t make him stop. He was always friendly when we
met people out on our walks, but he started barking at them more. He began to
sound more aggressive, although never actually coming close to biting anyone (at
that point). I wouldn’t be able to catch him, he would run round and round his
hapless victim and eventually I would have to run off in the other direction,
calling him and he would eventually follow. I would say, in a jolly voice, “He
just wants to play, he’s only a baby” but increasingly, we were being shouted at
by the people he was barking at, sticks were waved and we began to avoid places
where we might meet anybody.
Horses and bicycles were
a big problem. If I heard or saw them coming I could put him on his lead, and I
would literally be hanging on for grim death whilst he was lunging and barking
at them in a frenzy. I have never been so grateful for being a big lady because
I was able to plant my feet and lean back and he didn’t pull me over. I
couldn’t let my younger children take him out because they could not have held
him.
By October things were
very bad. He would lunge and bark at cars if we were walking along the road and
when I didn’t hear a bicycle approaching he did bite the cyclist. Well, he put
his mouth around the man’s leg. Luckily he didn’t puncture him, but he gave the
man a dreadful fright. He was swearing and shouting at us and I couldn’t get
King back under control. My daughter literally rugby tackled him and held on!
The man would have been entitled to call the police and I lived in fear for a
few days that there would be a ring on my door, but luckily there wasn’t.
Things were getting bad
at home as well. When visitors came round I couldn’t let King inside the house
and he would bark and snarl and throw himself at the patio doors. If he was in
the car we couldn’t give anybody a lift because he would try to break down the
dog guard and get at them. He was never even mildly aggressive to his immediate
family though, which made it very hard to accept that things had got so bad. He
was still very loving and affectionate and we could literally take food out of
his mouth without even a curled lip. He did jump up a lot though, and onto my
lap, and onto the back of the armchair when I was sitting on it, and sometimes
would bark for attention so much that I couldn’t sit with him in the kitchen.
The training classes had had to stop for a while because he had picked up Kennel
Cough from one of the other dogs and when we went back he was barking and
snarling and throwing himself at the other dogs. The trainer was able to
control him but as soon as I had him back he was doing it again.
The straw that broke the
camel’s back was a caravan weekend at the end of October. Walks were a
nightmare because he was so aggressive to everyone, even people who he had met
regularly since he was a puppy. I was constantly frightened that we would meet
people or horses when we were on our walks and I took to walking him in the
middle of the night or very, very early in the morning. Then he nearly attacked
a child. She wasn’t doing anything that should have frightened him, she wasn’t
scared of dogs, she didn’t stare at him or make any sudden movements, we let
King approach her at his own pace, and he attacked. Luckily I had him on his
head collar and was able to grab his collar as well and pull him away, but I
truly believe he was going for her face.
When we got home I phoned
the dog trainer and he recommended an animal behaviourist. She said she
couldn’t help. We were doing everything that she would have told us to do, she
said, and King obviously wasn’t suited to being a family pet. She gave me the
name of the people who take dogs to train them for the army and said I should
contact them and German Shepherd rescue. With a heavy heart I filled out the
form on the Defence Animal Centre website (which I was never to get a reply to)
and typed German Shepherd Rescue into Google search.
One of the sites that
came up was Debbie’s. She seemed to be saying that she could take problem dogs
like King and turn them around. When I phoned her I felt as if there was a tiny
glimmer of hope. She said she would take him and see what she could do, but
there were no guarantees and she would be honest if she didn’t think I should
keep him. She told me to read two of the success stories on her website,
Ollie’s and Nessa’s and to bring King up to her the next day. When I read the
stories, I cried and cried. They were so similar to King’s and she had been
able to help them, so maybe she could save him.
I cried all the way up to
Newark and all the way home after leaving him there. Debbie had looked at
King’s pedigree and read it like a book. She was able to tell that he didn’t
have a strong working line, which was a good thing for a family pet, but there
was quite a lot of in-breeding and one line was known for producing “sharp”
natured dogs. It wasn’t a hopeless case though and she thought she might be
able to do something. For the first week I mourned. That is the only way to
describe how I was feeling. I felt as if King had died. I read and re-read
Ollie and Nessa’s stories and waited for Debbie’s almost daily e-mails with
obsessional impatience. In the second week things changed. I began to realise
how stressful having King had been. Always looking over my shoulder in case
somebody was coming, being shouted at for having a vicious dog. I went out with
other dogs and couldn’t believe how different it was, not having to worry.
When Debbie phoned to say
that I could come and get King I felt torn. I was desperate to see him again,
but I couldn’t believe that there could be any sort of significant improvement
in his behaviour in only 2 weeks. Having him back, only slightly better would
be worse than not having him back at all. I almost wished that she had said
that there was no hope and she was sending him off to be a police dog. My
daughters and I drove up to get him in a state of trepidation. When we got
there, King was in a cage in the office. We were not allowed to look at him or
talk to him as he had to realise that he was now bottom of the pecking order.
He was hysterically excited to see us, but we couldn’t respond. The girls found
it very hard. Debbie shook a little bottle of pebbles at him, which would
immediately make him stop, and eventually he lay down and was quiet. Then he
was allowed out but again we weren’t allowed to talk to him and when he was
sitting quietly and politely we could stroke him. This humble King was a very
different dog to the one I had left there. Debbie talked us through it all for
a couple of hours and then we were able to take him home.
I still didn’t believe
that he would be much different once he was in his familiar environment, but I
was completely and utterly wrong. Back at home, he was perfect. A shake of the
bottle would immediately stop him barking and when we were allowed out on short
walks he would walk along perfectly on the lead as if he had never had a
problem. Cars could go past, bicycles, or children and I would say “leave it”
and he would! Not even a hint of a lunge. Visitors couldn’t believe the
difference in him. Was he drugged? Had a lobotomy? No, I would say, he’s been
“Debbie'd”.
Four months on he’s still
wonderful. The bottle doesn’t have such an effect any more but I wouldn’t have
to use it much if it did, because walking on the lead is a dream. Even children
on bicycles don’t get a reaction. Visitors can come to the house and be
introduced (if they aren’t frightened of big dogs in general) and we can take
people in our car again. Debbie is going to come here to give him a top up and
make sure that we aren’t slipping in our training, but I have absolutely no
doubt that he will be with us for ever now.
The best thing of all is
that he is so much happier. Debbie says that we had allowed him to be “top dog”
and he didn’t like it. He isn’t a naturally dominant dog, and he found it very
stressful to have to be responsible for his pack’s safety. He saw danger
everywhere and totally over reacted out of fear. Once the responsibility had
been taken away from him he was able to relax. The new leader of the pack, me,
was now going to make sure that we would all be safe and he could just enjoy
life, which he is. Debbie also changed his diet, which we have kept up. She
feeds her dogs Vitalin, Lamb and Rice, which, very conveniently, you can have
delivered. I was feeding him a premium dry dog food, which should have been
very good for him, but he often had diarrhoea. Now he never does, his poos are
a delight! I never thought I would ever write that!
If you are reading this
because you are in despair over your dog, please take hope from it. Debbie can
perform miracles.
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